Dr's. Appointment

Today Justin and I meet with Lydia's pediatrician to discuss our special needs list that our adoption agency had given us. At this time, we are looking into minor special needs that can be corrected. We researched each need and marked yes to the ones we felt the most comfertable with and then disscussed the rest with the doctor to see what treatment was needed and the long term effects. In a way he was helpful, but then it just got confusing. He kept telling us, "yes, this is nothing serious to worry about. I would accept a child with this need. It could be corrected...if not already corrected and they would live a normal life." Then he would say, "I would be willing to discuss these needs in more detail. Most of them could be a simple fix...unless xxx had happened." He said that about a lot of situations. That's when it started to get confusing.

We know some of the needs we will be willing to take. Then there are a few we would be willing to discuss. However, we don't want a list with a few yes' and a few no's and then 20 willing to discuss. We are afraid that if we do, they will present us with a file that we are not 100% comfertable with and say no...something we don't want to do. Then what if we do say no and are presented with another file that is something similar or a need caused by a head trama or phycological disorder (as our dr. stated). We don't want to keep turning down files and then being pushed out of the program because we are not willing to accept a child.

At this point we are still unsure what we are going to accept or not accept. During our homestudy visit one of our questions is going to be what are the common needs that the children have and go from there.