Our agency requires adoptive families to read 2-3 books that cover issues that may occur before, during or after the adoption is completed. Our social worker suggested that we read "I wish for you a beautiful life". This book really made you sit back and think about the childs birthmother and gain a better understanding of what she must have went through during her pregnancy and while creating an adoption plan. It not only gave us a chance to see how the birthmothers are feeling, but also gave us some insight on how to address questions our children may have about there adoption in the years to come. I only wish that we could of had more information about Lydia's birthmother/family to share this information with her as she gets older.
Another book that was suggested was "Becoming a Family". This book deals with issues on attachment. Since I feel Lydia never seemed to have any major attachment issues (I believe she was so sick in the beginning and when we made her better she bonded to us fairly well and quickly) we choose to read this book in case the child doesn't bond with us. It was also a very good book...however, the first few chapters really scared me. I almost got to the point were I was questioning the adoption and if we could handle some of the situations that arise. I think having one adoption under our belts has helped. As I read through this book, I took notes on how to handle certain situations and know feel more educated on how to address the situation. If anyone wants a little summer reading to do, these two books are a great choice.
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